Friday, September 14, 2007

The Intoxicating Blogosphere - A Cautionary Tale

I really love to write. Preachers are supposed to like to golf - but I never was good enough to justify the the outlay of cash necessary to 'chase the little white ball'.

That's when I discovered blogging. A fun way to write, relax and even read and learn. But then comes comments - yes, actual people visiting one's blog and making comments about what you've written, positive, negative, it mattered not - it was readership! That's when I began to really delve into to the "blogosphere"! As it progressed I discovered a wonderful little idol called a 'counter'. This little device tracks and breaks down every single bit of traffic to your blog in so many ways it makes your head spin - and it's pretty cool. Then I discovered when I write on certain topics that interest me - my counter climbed! Cool! That meant more visitors coming to read what I've written, more comments. That was very cool. At least I thought.

Then it sort of hit me - and a commenter on another blog I think sums up this blog traffic 'high' by this statement they made:

"I have to admit I hadn’t spent too much time at ********** in the past few months, once I realized I was there simply for the “train wreck” appeal of it all. In some articles the prideful part of me would pop up and say, 'I would never do a thing like that!'"

And that is it indeed - the more contentious the topic - the more readers. Don't misunderstand, the topics I write and wrote about are things I am very passionate about, very concerned with and believe with all my heart and still do. And lets face it, not many care to read about my family vacation to Mackinac Island, or my children starting a new school.

The whole blog "gig" became rather intoxicating - and for me, rather wrong.

Here's what the Lord reminded me of yesterday: I am responsible for how people perceive me. I should do everything I can to make sure I am representing Jesus Christ and myself in the most accurate and the most Christ honoring way I can. This nearly led me to deleting this entire blog yesterday - and the reason is I honestly have no desire to argue with or be contentious with brothers in Christ. After being called some unsavory and hurtful things - I realized that how I was being perceived by some wasn't the real me.

The reason why lies in the very nature of electronic communication (blog, email, etc.). There is a very key component in this medium that is missing - TONE.

When one makes strong statements in communicating, tone can be your best friend. When preaching, strong statements come off much better because people can see the smile, see my tears, hear the concern in my voice, hear the humor - and it all makes sense and it is understood what kind of person I am and the spirit in which the message is delivered.

Sadly, people who only 'read' what I say electronically don't get to see or hear the above mentioned tonal qualities, which may lead some to conclusions about me that aren't true. Then some, armed with "Internet muscles" are glad to pull out the sword and use it on someone they've never met because they've rushed to conclusions about my heart and the spirit in which I deliver things that simply aren't true.

The solution? I remember that I'm responsible for how people perceive me - and now in this day and age that includes electronically.

So in that spirit, I back off, apologize to whomever I need to apologize to for coming across in a manner that was not my intent.

I make it a practice to evaluate criticism - if it has any merit, I receive it and repent - for the misguided hurtful criticism that has no merit - it's water off a ducks back.

The final analysis is that I set my face like flint to go after Jesus with more passion and more humility than ever before - I will continue holding my God given convictions and taking my stand for the Lord.

20 comments:

  1. although i've never met you, reading both your blog and your debate with brad, i am coming to respect your heart. i've seen you be honest, and respectful even in the face of disagreement. it was refreshing, to me, to read a debate (not an arguement) by 2 intelligent men with different opinions. i am glad that you've chosen to continue because yours is one of the few blogs that i faithfully read.

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  2. thank you brother - appreciate your words.

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  3. Good post...and a good reminder to anyone who Blogs that we are first of all to be representivies of Christ.

    Thanks.. I take your comments as a personal reminder

    God bless

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  4. Thanks PJ - you've got a great blog, btw.

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  5. Pastor E.

    Some cautionary words, you are not responsible for how all people perceive you and I do not believe God holds us accountable if we are not perceived by all individuals in a good light.

    The message of the Cross will offend some, it always has and it always will. Remember the Apostle Paul had some pretty hairy encounters.

    But I do believe that we should do the best we can to ensure that we do not allow our flesh to get in the way.

    Please do not lose your passion for God's Truth and become like many who think that they must at all times not offend with God's word. That is a false Gospel.

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  6. that man -

    Oh I agree with that - certainly the gospel is offensive, and many times the truth is offensive to so called 'believers'. Every where Paul went he seemed to either start a revival or a riot.

    Rest assured I will NEVER back down on the truth, or my convictions. I just want to make sure my spirit is right. I may save my most passionate words for my preaching - although I would like to share a personal testimony on this blog of my journey out of the PDC, that will surely ruffle someones feathers on the planet - oh well.

    I'd like to meet with some of these folks face to face and talk to them over a cup of coffee, I think somehow that might go better - maybe not though.

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  7. that man -

    maybe I should make clear that I'm not apologizing for my opinions or my stands! That is not the case whatsoever. I still feel the same way on issues as I did yesterday - I'm just going to be more careful that I convey those more carefully.

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  8. Thanks Eric...

    and forgive my mis-spelling of the word representative,lol...

    That's what i get for posting when tired..

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  9. Pastor E,

    I too find the "blogosphere" an intoxicating place. It is a place that lacks TONE and the personal touch. I have known you for several years (since 1991) and I can see what you write and have a good idea of the heart behind it.

    I have never known you to back down from the Truth. You are right. The way we say things or blog things will help to shape people's perceptions of us as individuals and perhaps more importantly as Christians. Do you think that there is possibly only so far that we can go before they (the readers) fill in their own blanks and jump to false perceptions of us? If so, once we have done all we can do to present the "heart", is there a point when we just have to let people think what they want?

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  10. Phoenix -

    Yes, I think you're correct. As I've pondered this, I'm responsible for how people who see me, talk to me and come in personal contact with me perceive me - but as you pointed out, I have little control of that in this medium because of that lack of 'tone', and therefore some will reach there own conclusions, that becomes their opinion, right or wrong.

    It's difficult when there are irrational commenter's, instead of judging my statements, begin trying judge my 'spirit' or 'heart' behind what I'm writing which was what I was getting yesterday. As I've always said, disagree, that's fine - but these two guys got personal, and when I got to the bottom of it - it didn't surprise me.

    My part in this, like I stated above, is to check my spirit and make sure that I am indeed delivering things electronically in the most gentle and humble way possible.

    thanks for your words bro!

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  11. I have gone through this too. I am a fairly good public speaker but when I write I get all tangled up. Sometimes I read one of my blog posts months later and wish I could hide under the table because the tone is not good. God has helped me to see that I have to write it on my word processor, back off for a day or two, and then come back to it. I think that helps and now when I go back and read I don't get the "horror" feeling that I wish I could hide somewhere or maybe demolish the blog..LOL.
    I am reading how to podcast, although blogger doesn't make it easy and doesn't tell you how to do it. Perhaps once a week, if I podcast, then the reader can get my tone and know that I am not as sarcastic as I sometimes come across in my writing.

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  12. Eric,

    I have been reading your blogs for a while and folowing these discussions in the background (for those who don't know me-no, I am not a stalker ;<)). I have seen nothing like the tone of other discussions that I have witnessed in anything you have written here or in other places.
    I am continually impressed by how quick you are to respond when the Holy Spirit reins you in on any matter. That in itself bears witness to your experience of the Baptism of the Holy Spirit. I have seen older Christians than you argue themselves into a frenzy and try to justify it with scripture later.
    Keep following the Spirit and don't quit. Even Jesus said some things that people who were following after him found hard to take- and they left him- much to His sorrow.

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  13. thanks for the encouragement chaz4jc!

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  14. Eric -

    I used to be one of those irrational commenters in the blogosphere and chat channels. I have found that it is a lot easier to clarify with the poster/chatter what is meant behind the words that are being typed. It is there in the clarification that I can start to see the 'spirit' or 'heart' behind the words. It is at that point that I can better offer intelligent and unbiased comments.

    I am thinking of starting my own blog. Of course, it will be based in Scripture and bathed in prayer. I know that, like you, I will face some naysayers and people that would like to twist words to suit whatever stance one wants to believe.

    I have learned several important things while under your ministry. One of those things that has had a lasting impression is that I am responsible for presenting the Gospel of Christ without compromise, with a gentle and loving spirit, and to always remember that a person's perception of how I present the Gospel of Christ (through word AND action) can either turn them toward the saving grace of God or it can turn them away.

    Keep on keeping on. I look forward to seeing you again whether it be on this Earth or in our final home in Heaven.

    In Christ's service,

    Phoenix

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  15. Speaking as a person who has the pleasure of not only reading your blog, but also hearing your preaching all I can say is keep up the good work brother! I realize that tone cannot be conveyed through words, but believe it or not I think we can all see your heart through your words. To echo what That Man Said "The message of the Cross will offend some, it always has and it always will" he is right on the money. It boils down to this you will never make everyone happy and in reality do we really want to? I would say we would be ineffective in our respective ministries if everyone we came across was happy with our encounter. I admire your spirit which reminds me of Proverbs 22:1 "Choose a good reputation over great riches,
    for being held in high esteem is better than
    having silver or gold." Keep up the great work and be strong for Him!
    You are in my prayers brother!
    RainMan

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  16. Rainman - thank you and I greatly appreciate your support!

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  17. e -

    Side note. There were a couple posts about "How Saved Are We?" or something like that. I can't remember their exact name, and I can't find them now.

    Any idea where they went?

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  18. J -

    I reposted it again.

    blessings,

    Eric

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  19. Muchas gracias! I was away from a computer for a while and it disappeared! I've had the occasional post disappear on me too.

    Annoying to say the least. I'm glad you had a back-up!

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  20. PE:
    Your words speak loud and clear to my heart. I too, have realized through the blogoshere I have been misinterpreted and feuds have begun. I just hope people know that I am coming to them with information from a humble and loving place. Not a hurtful and antagonistic place.

    Blessings,
    Jenni

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